Acts of service are powerful but must be meaningful to the recipient. Even if both partners speak the same love language, they might miss each other's needs by focusing on different 'dialects' within that language. Chapman highlights that identifying and fulfilling specific requests can refuel both partners’ 'love tanks.' For example, Dave and Mary both valued acts of service but needed to understand the specific actions that made each other feel loved. 'We can request things of each other, but we must never demand anything. Requests give direction to love, but demands stop the flow of love.'