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People commonly think of Heroes as strong or brave, but these qualities are secondary to sacrifice — the True mark of a Hero.
Recognize that moral judgments can be influenced through positive interactions with others. Engage in respectful and open-minded discussions to potentially reshape your and others' moral intuitions.
Growing a business is much harder if you are constantly having to replace customers you’ve lost. Which would you prefer, after all—making fifty sales in a year and having a 100 percent customer retention rate, or making a hundred sales a year and having a 50 percent retention rate?
Triggers are like little environmental reminders for related concepts and ideas.
Love can often look like so many things that don’t seem like love.
As you care less about what people think of you, you will care more about what others think of themselves.
Thomas Erikson introduces the DISA system, categorizing personalities into four colors: Red, Yellow, Green, and Blue. Each color represents distinct behavior and communication styles. For instance, Reds are bold and driven, while Blues are meticulous and organized. Erikson emphasizes, 'The people around you most often see your moderated behavior. You interpret a specific situation and make a choice about how to act based on that evaluation.' Recognizing these types can improve interpersonal communication and reduce conflicts.
Always Carry a Notebook
Adopt a daily practice that denies the parasite its fuel while you rewrite one belief at a time. First, conduct a written inventory of fear-based agreements that reliably produce suffering; specify triggers and the Judge/Victim script that follows, because “Awareness is always the first step.” Second, select one small agreement to break and immediately install a replacement that occupies the same mental space—“If you occupy the same space with a new agreement, then the old agreement is gone forever”—as in the singing example where the adult sings badly on purpose, rehearses imagined applause, and repeats. Third, when a trigger arises, refrain rather than repress: breathe, label the emotion, and act only when you can be impeccable, thereby starving the parasite of fear-energy. Fourth, repeat the new behavior until it becomes automatic—“Repetition makes the master”—tracking reduced drama and increased energy as evidence. Fifth, practice nightly forgiveness to extract emotional poison—“Forgiveness is the only way to heal”—and each morning adopt the angel-of-death lens (“One more day to be myself”) to override people-pleasing and accelerate agreement replacement. Expected results include fewer emotional spirals, more available energy for change, and progressive capacity to tackle deeper, core agreements.
If a goal isn’t connected to a deep “why,” it may be good, but it usually isn’t best.
Use a third party to help you resolve conflict. Use a third party to help you protect and support yourself.
You first learned to live upon less than you could earn. Next you learned to seek advice from those who were competent through their own experiences to give it. And, lastly, you have learned to make gold work for you.
A lack of authenticity causes a rupture and you will be able to repair it by becoming authentic.
She tells Dorothy she had the power to return home all along. She didn't tell Dorothy because She wouldn't have believed me. She had to learn it for herself.
Self-compassion often involves taking the more difficult road that is in your best interests.
What we think about, our brains become.
We need to care about what people think but we can’t be defined by it.
Your Intuition is Your Inner GPS.
Once you complete your apprenticeship, you must have the courage to think creatively and challenge the rules you learned.
Choose not to be harmed—and you won’t feel harmed. Don’t feel harmed—and you haven’t been.
