Don Miguel Ruiz

Being impeccable with your word is the correct use of your energy; it means to use your energy in the direction of truth and love for yourself.

Heaven on Earth

Ruiz introduces the Four Agreements as a path to personal freedom and a way to transform one's life from a personal hell to a personal heaven. By adopting and respecting these agreements, individuals can control their lives entirely and achieve True freedom. Ruiz asserts, 'If you are impeccable with your word, if you don’t take anything personally, if you don’t make assumptions, if you always do your best, then you are going to have a beautiful life.' This idea is further illustrated by the notion that these agreements help individuals transcend suffering and become the embodiment of God.

Domestication and the Dream of the Planet

Don Miguel Ruiz introduces the concept of 'domestication,' where humans are conditioned from a young age through a system of punishment and reward. This process shapes our beliefs, values, and behaviors, creating what Ruiz calls the 'dream of the planet.' This collective dream is a set of societal norms and expectations that dictate how we should live and perceive the world. Ruiz explains, 'The outside dream hooks our attention and teaches us what to believe, beginning with the language that we speak.' This domestication leads to a personal dream often filled with fear, judgment, and self-rejection.

Be Impeccable with Your Word

The first and most crucial agreement is to be impeccable with your word. Ruiz explains that our words have immense power—they can create or destroy. Being impeccable means using our words in the direction of truth and love, both towards ourselves and others. He illustrates this with the example of a mother who unintentionally curses her daughter's singing voice, leading the daughter to believe she is unworthy. Ruiz writes, 'Being impeccable with your word is the correct use of your energy; it means to use your energy in the direction of truth and love for yourself.'

Don't Take Anything Personally

Ruiz emphasizes the importance of not taking things personally as a means to avoid unnecessary suffering. He argues that when we take things personally, we set ourselves up for pain because we assume that others' actions and words are about us, when in reality, they are a reflection of their own inner world. 'When we really see other people as they are without taking it personally, we can never be hurt by what they say or do,' Ruiz states. By not taking things personally, we gain freedom from the emotional poison that others may try to send our way.

Don't Make Assumptions

The third agreement Ruiz discusses is the tendency to make assumptions, which often leads to misunderstandings and conflict. He explains that assumptions are dangerous because we believe them to be True without verifying the facts. 'We make assumptions about what others are doing or thinking — we take it personally — then we blame them and react by sending emotional poison with our word,' Ruiz notes. To avoid the pitfalls of assumptions, he advises asking questions and seeking clarity in communication.

Always Do Your Best

The fourth agreement is to always do your best. Ruiz explains that this agreement allows the other three to become deeply ingrained habits. He emphasizes that 'your best' will vary from moment to moment, depending on circumstances. 'If you do your best, you will feel good about yourself even if you still make assumptions, still take things personally, and still are not impeccable with your word,' Ruiz writes. This agreement encourages continuous self-improvement and self-acceptance.

Breaking Old Agreements

Ruiz discusses the importance of breaking old, fear-based agreements that drain our personal power. He uses the metaphor of a parasite to describe the Judge, the Victim, and the belief system that control our minds and feed on our negative emotions. 'The freedom we seek is to use our own mind and body, to live our own life, instead of the life of the belief system,' Ruiz states. By identifying and breaking these old agreements, we can reclaim our True selves and live more authentically.

Challenge Your Beliefs

Begin by questioning the beliefs and agreements you have internalized. Reflect on whether they truly serve your well-being or if they are merely products of societal domestication.

The outside dream hooks our attention and teaches us what to believe, beginning with the language that we speak.

The real us is pure love, pure light.

Practice Self-Love and Acceptance

Cultivate a practice of self-love by acknowledging and embracing your True self. Recognize that you are made of light and love, and that your worth is not determined by external validation.

Be Mindful of Your Words

Always speak with integrity and avoid using words to speak against yourself or others. This will help you build trust and positive relationships.

Ask Questions to Avoid Assumptions

Instead of making assumptions about what others think or feel, ask direct questions to gain clarity. This practice will help you avoid misunderstandings and improve your communication.

Practice Not Taking Things Personally

Remind yourself that others' actions and words are a reflection of their own reality, not yours. By not taking things personally, you can maintain your emotional well-being and avoid unnecessary suffering.

The belief system is like a Book of Law that rules our mind. Without question, whatever is in that Book of Law, is our truth.

We are living in a dream of hell. If you consider hell as a state of mind, then hell is all around us.

We have learned to live our lives trying to satisfy other people’s demands.

If you want to live a life of joy and fulfillment, you have to find the courage to break those agreements that are fear-based and claim your personal power.

Gossip is black magic at its very worst because it is pure poison.

Your word is pure magic, and misuse of your word is black magic.

The truth is the most important part of being impeccable with your word.

The mitote can be compared to a huge marketplace where thousands of people are talking and bartering at the same time.

When we really see other people as they are without taking it personally, we can never be hurt by what they say or do.

We make assumptions about what others are doing or thinking — we take it personally — then we blame them and react by sending emotional poison with our word.

If you do your best, you will feel good about yourself even if you still make assumptions, still take things personally, and still are not impeccable with your word.

The best way to say, 'I love you, God,' is to live your life doing your best.

When you practice giving love to every part of your body, you plant seeds of love in your mind, and when they grow, you will love, honor, and respect your body immensely.

If you are impeccable with your word, if you don’t take anything personally, if you don’t make assumptions, if you always do your best, then you are going to have a beautiful life.

The freedom we seek is to use our own mind and body, to live our own life, instead of the life of the belief system.

The first step toward personal freedom is awareness. We need to be aware that we are not free in order to be free.

Forgiveness is the only way to heal. We can choose to forgive because we feel compassion for ourselves.