Don't Take Anything Personally
Ruiz emphasizes the importance of not taking things personally as a means to avoid unnecessary suffering. He argues that when we take things personally, we set ourselves up for pain because we assume that others' actions and words are about us, when in reality, they are a reflection of their own inner world. 'When we really see other people as they are without taking it personally, we can never be hurt by what they say or do,' Ruiz states. By not taking things personally, we gain freedom from the emotional poison that others may try to send our way.