Your ability to generate power is directly proportional to your ability to relax.

Boundaries without consequences are not boundaries.

High performers do better at all of these measures. This is precisely what the Agile and Lean movements predict, but much dogma in our industry still rests on the false assumption that moving faster means trading off against other performance goals, rather than enabling and reinforcing them.

No one but God is indispensable... When a conflict with one significant person can bring us to despair, it is possible we are putting that person on a throne that should only be occupied by God.

A ‘change’ is any activity that is physical, logical, or virtual to applications, databases, operating systems, networks, or hardware that could impact services being delivered.

All change is hard at first, messy in the middle and gorgeous at the end.

Conflict between the role we are required to play and the role we are looking to fulfill is the source of many of the social dysfunctions we are starting to experience in the workplace.

What matters, therefore, is not the meaning of life in general but rather the specific meaning of a person’s life at a given moment.

How different seeking marriage would be if, as we argued earlier in this book, we were to view marriage as a vehicle for spouses helping each other become their glorious future-selves through sacrificial service and spiritual friendship.

Mirroring helps us survive emotionally—that is, to experience the events of our life with the power to handle them and without being devastated or embittered by them.