Falling in love is described as a temporary collapse of ego boundaries, leading to a sense of unity and ecstasy. However, this is not real love because it is effortless and often illusory. Real love requires effort, discipline, and the conscious extension of one's ego boundaries to nurture another's growth. Peck states, 'Falling in love is not an act of will. It is not a conscious choice... Real love often occurs in a context in which the feeling of love is lacking.' | Scott Peck | The Road Less Traveled

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Falling in Love vs. Real Love

Falling in love is described as a temporary collapse of ego boundaries, leading to a sense of unity and ecstasy. However, this is not real love because it is effortless and often illusory. Real love requires effort, discipline, and the conscious extension of one's ego boundaries to nurture another's growth. Peck states, 'Falling in love is not an act of will. It is not a conscious choice... Real love often occurs in a context in which the feeling of love is lacking.'

-- Scott Peck