Character is like a tree, and reputation like a shadow. The shadow is what we think of it; the tree is the real thing.

Too often, being successful when you are young is about survival. Some people are good at hiding their troubles. They are good at “falling up."

Affect heuristic: making decisions based on our emotions on the topic.

The key to creating synergy is in learning to value—even celebrate—the difference.

Membership is about connection and access over privacy and ownership—and not everyone values these the same way.

The community of the followers of Jesus, the community of the better righteousness, is the visible community: it has left the world and society, and counted everything but loss for the cross of Christ.

The downside of a diagnosis is that it’s like a judgement, a full stop. This means it can close a door on looking at and learning to understand the feelings behind a behaviour.

Seeking validation of our viewpoint is toxic. Our distorted version of self will never be an accurate portrayal of who we are, and expecting others to see and applaud us for who we think we are is unrealistic and will only hurt us.

The Church needs space not only for her liturgy and order, but also for the daily life of her members in the world.

If we hear only words that are spoken to the Lower Room and if we spend our time there, we will live like citizens of that room.