The Willpower Instinct
by Kelly McGonigal
To exert self-control, you need to find your motivation when it matters. This is “I want” power.
To say no when you need to say no, and yes when you need to say yes, you need a third power: the ability to remember what you really want.
People who have better control of their attention, emotions, and actions are better off almost any way you look at it.