Unsolved Problems Are Predictable, Not Random

Perhaps the most empowering insight is that explosive episodes aren't unpredictable 'out of the blue' events but highly predictable responses to specific unsolved problems. Greene reveals: 'Most kids with concerning behaviors are reliably set off by the same five or six (or ten or twelve) problems every day or every week.' This transforms crisis management into crisis prevention. Parents can proactively identify and solve problems during calm moments rather than desperately trying to manage explosions. The ALSUP tool systematically maps both the skills a child lacks and the specific situations where they struggle. As Greene emphasizes: 'By the time she's going nuts it's already too late.' This predictability means parents can shift from reactive punishment to proactive problem-solving, addressing issues when everyone's thinking clearly rather than in the heat of the moment.