Give advance notice before problem-solving conversations: 'I've noticed we've been having some difficulty with bedtime. Could we talk about it after dinner tomorrow?' This respects the child's autonomy and allows mental preparation, dramatically reducing defensive responses. Treat these like important meetings—perhaps Sunday mornings or after-school snacks—creating predictable times when concerns will be heard without requiring escalation. | Ross W Greene PhD | The Explosive Child

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Schedule Problem-Solving Appointments

Give advance notice before problem-solving conversations: 'I've noticed we've been having some difficulty with bedtime. Could we talk about it after dinner tomorrow?' This respects the child's autonomy and allows mental preparation, dramatically reducing defensive responses. Treat these like important meetings—perhaps Sunday mornings or after-school snacks—creating predictable times when concerns will be heard without requiring escalation.

-- Ross W Greene PhD