Miller emphasizes the transformative power of empathy in therapy, contrasting it with the dismissive and manipulative practices she critiques. She shares the story of a young analyst, Peter, who defied his training to validate a patient’s experience of being raped during World War II. By acknowledging her trauma and creating a safe space for her to process her emotions, Peter helped the patient overcome her depression. Miller argues that true healing requires therapists to set aside theoretical dogmas and engage with their patients’ lived realities, stating, 'The child seeks adults’ love because he cannot live without it; he meets all their demands to the extent that he is able—for the sake of survival.' This approach fosters genuine connection and healing. | Alice Miller | Thou Shalt Not Be Aware

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The Importance of Empathy in Healing

Miller emphasizes the transformative power of empathy in therapy, contrasting it with the dismissive and manipulative practices she critiques. She shares the story of a young analyst, Peter, who defied his training to validate a patient’s experience of being raped during World War II. By acknowledging her trauma and creating a safe space for her to process her emotions, Peter helped the patient overcome her depression. Miller argues that true healing requires therapists to set aside theoretical dogmas and engage with their patients’ lived realities, stating, 'The child seeks adults’ love because he cannot live without it; he meets all their demands to the extent that he is able—for the sake of survival.' This approach fosters genuine connection and healing.

-- Alice Miller