Practice self-awareness to understand when you are being dishonest

9. The book discusses the evolution of human societies from bands to tribes, chiefdoms, and states.

Sooner or later every popular fast-growing industry becomes a slow-growing industry, and numerous analysts and prognosticators are fooled.

I have climbed the ladder of success, and as I’m getting near the top rung, I realize that the ladder is leaning against the wrong wall. It’s not in money; it’s not in positions. It’s in this family relationship.

The difficulties inherent in experiencing and developing one’s own emotions lead to mutual dependency, which prevents individuation.

The more we choose to accept responsibility for our lives, the more power we will exercise over our lives. Accepting responsibility for our problems is thus the first step to solving them.

If we instead focus on “retrieval strength,” we instantly start to think strategically about what kind of cues should trigger the retrieval of a memory.

I'm the king of the world!

Self-sufficiency’s near enemy is hyper-independence. It’s good to be able to look after yourself, but when independence turns into the fear of getting close to others, or fear of accepting help, you could find yourself isolated and overwhelmed.

I am not for or against living together, but I am for twentysomethings knowing that, far from safeguarding against divorce, moving in with someone increases your chances of locking in on someone, whether he or she is right for you or not.